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Monday Blues?

Monday.

A word that strikes fear into the hearts of many. I won’t lie—it is true for me as well from time to time. Perhaps you are familiar with the dread that starts to creep in on Sunday evenings?

I am trying to take a different spin on Mondays and instead of looking at it from the Mamas and The Papas viewpoint (Monday, Monday…can’t trust that day…), I am trying to view Mondays from a “Yay, it’s a new week, fresh start” perspective.

Mondays

I do so enjoy the freedom of the weekends and hanging out with the fam, but I also enjoy the schedule and routine that the weekdays bring as well.

I had a great time this past weekend dress shopping with my Emma for a gown to wear to the Military Ball. She has been invited by a friend to be his date and she is excited to get all dressed up. I must say, she looked way too grown in some of the dresses she tried on! OY! This mama is not ready for all this grown up business!

I guess I better get used to it.

And yet, she was so silly as we were out shopping having such a blast on Saturday and then we spent most of yesterday afternoon watching an Anne of Green Gables movie marathon on the Inspiration channel. It seems as though she is at that weird place I remember being as a 13 and 14 year old girl—the in-betweens. In between childhood and womanhood. It can be very confusing, as I recall. Wanting to be grown up and still feeling a connection with your childlike self and needing your mama. I hope she never loses needing her mama part or the silly part. I do love it so.

At the same time, I admire the woman she is becoming. One of her teachers told me in an email this past fall that Emma “is a fine student and exhibits a high level of self-respect for a teenager. You should be proud.” He is right. And I could not be more proud of her.

I hope you all are having a wonderful Monday and taking it for what it is…a new day that is filled with blessings and is, like Anne Shirley (Anne of Green Gables) says, “always fresh, with no mistakes in it.”

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Relativity

I do realize that cold is relative, but right now in my sleepy South Carolina town, it is 32 degrees this morning. In frigid Midwest terms, I’d say that would be, oh, probably about 15 degrees with a –5 windchill. We don’t know how to act down here when it gets like this. At least it isn’t snowing, but then, if it were, we’d at least have something to show for the cold temps.

To ward off the chill, I am sitting here with my piping hot mug of tea and our little space heater blowing some nice warm air in my direction. I am also keeping my fingers warm by tapping on these here keys! Ha.

I am thinking my walk will have to wait until the temp comes up a little.

Meanwhile, I plan for my classes at the homeschool co-op tomorrow and wait for Jacob to make an appearance this morning. He is not a morning person.

The apple did not fall far, people.

Christmas 2012 and Jacob and Lubie 074I am always amused when I see things in my kids that I know are true about me as well. I distinctly remember my mom yelling (and yelling) at me to get up in the mornings. Oh, I was just terrible about getting up. (Still hate it.) Now that I am the mom yelling at my kid to get out of bed, I realize that my mom’s head must have been about to pop off every morning of the school year. Sorry, Mom. Really.

Finding something to motivate my son to rise and shine is not easily done, my friends. But when he does get up and it is time to get with the school work, he gets with it. So, as long as he is getting his work done, it is fine with me if he sleeps in a bit.

Hey—I’d sleep in if I could.

I also love when I see things in my kids that I know are not true about me. Though I have always loved to sing, I have always been very shy about singing in public. I have done it, but only a couple of times and probably not since I was about 17. And I was always horrified—like on the verge of puking. So, I am now relegated to singing in the car, the kitchen and the shower, and that’s just fine with me, thank you. I’m on a Les Mis kick at the moment.

Emma sings You're Gonna Miss Me - YouTubeNow, I see Emma, who has joined a show choir this year, really coming out of her shell. And I had the great privilege of seeing and hearing her perform for the first time publically this past weekend. It was pure joy. She was amazing. She is out there doing something I never felt comfortable doing. Proud Mama moment for sure.

Raising these two kids, who are both so like and so unlike my husband and me, is the most incredible gift. Watching them grow and become the young adults they are becoming is priceless.

I am so grateful to God every day.

“The hardest part of raising a child is teaching them to ride bicycles.  A shaky child on a bicycle for the first time needs both support and freedom.  The realization that this is what the child will always need can hit hard.”  ~Sloan Wilson

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Life and Peace

If you were one of the 5 people who read my worrywart post from the other day, and you managed to get to the end of it, I thank you. It is not my normal fare, but honestly, I found it quite cathartic, and as one who tends to “verbally process” things, it really did help me shift my focus. So, thanks.

“That the birds of worry and care fly over your head, this you cannot change, but that they build nests in your hair, this you can prevent.”  ~Chinese Proverb

Meanwhile, back at the ranch…

Jacob's octanitrocubane molecule 2012At 17, Jacob is finishing up his 11th grade year. He has done very well academically this year and continues to become more independent. He is driving a little with his permit, but we are not quite ready to A) set him loose on these here SC roads and B) pay the insurance required for that there teen driver! I think his favorite thing right now is annoying his sister. Not a shocker. Especially since I only too vividly recollect my brothers’ enjoyment at annoying me when they were Jacob’s age. (No, I am not at all scarred.) He also enjoys his computer time and next year is taking a web design class at the homeschool co-op to get his feet a little more wet in that area. He is also interested in video game design and is very science minded.We will see what becomes of that! Hopefully some kind of career. (God is in control!!) He has made such incredible progress the last three years. I cannot remember the last time he wore his earplugs! Dare I say it? I feel like Asperger’s does not rule his life anymore. It’s true. Don’t get me wrong; it is there, lurking. But he is so much better able to manage the things that are frustrating or upsetting for him, which has come with lots of practice, patience and prayer. I can’t describe how proud of him we are and how thankful we are that he can enjoy his life so much more.

Emma, 8th grade dance 2012Emma nears the end of her middle school career. She, too, has excelled at school. She was stunning at her 8th grade dance a couple of weeks ago and it blows my mind at how grown up she is. Her beauty is both inward and outward, and I am so thankful. She keeps me rolling with her hilarious antics…busting a move in the grocery store the other day, and those quips of hers…I just don’t know where she gets it. She almost decided to spend May 5th of this year wrapped in bubble wrap and holed up here at the casa, since last May 5th was spent breaking her leg (and the subsequent 8 months spent rehabbing). Instead, we decided to go watch her former softball teammates play ball on the very field upon which she snapped her leg in two! That’s right! Take THAT broken leg! The next day, she turned 14. In a few months, she will enter high school. Someone please stop time already! She is 1 part excited, 2 parts terrified, but I know she will do just great.

Clyn and I just seem to be getting older…achy backs, achy feet and the like. It is so crazy to look around us and see our friends’ children graduating high school, getting married, then their kids having kids. I look at Clyn and say, “We cannot possibly be old enough to be grandparents, right?” But apparently, we are. Clyn works too hard, and when he isn’t working at his paying job, he is working at enjoying the kids and me. He is a great guy.

Emma's 14th birthday 5-12 012I have finished up my first year teaching a middle school science class at our local homeschool co-op. It was so much fun! I was nervous about doing it and yes, there were some days I felt completely clueless, but hey, let’s face it…that isn’t any different from any other day! Right? Next year, I will teach two classes there and I am really excited about it. The co-op has been such a wonderful part of our homeschooling experience and has helped Jacob grow tremendously. Such a blessing!

There is a perpetual calendar I keep on my desk that is put out by Joyce Meyer, who I enjoy for her humor and straight-forward teaching approach. Each day I enjoy reading the scripture passages and brief devotional.

Here is today’s:

“Our thoughts become our words, and our words affect our feelings and actions. Therefore, it is vitally important that we choose life-generating thoughts. When we do, right words will follow.”

The mind governed by the flesh is death,but the mind governed by the Spirit is lifeand peace. ~Romans 8:6 NIV

Amen! I choose life and peace today.

That is all!

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